Copy of email sent to Lucy Flores. Joe Biden copied in.
Lucy,
You want an answer directly from Joe Biden and I think that is proper. But for now, I hope you will accept the thoughts of this Joe, one who is now about the same age as Biden was when he kissed your head. Joseph Aronesty is my full name. Now 71. I went to school with Donald Trump and, like you, I am a staunch advocate against him as POTUS. And I want you to look in on what I do to fight him every say. ( blog link below)
I hope you know Joe Biden was kissing you without a sexual thought. As we get older – those thoughts don’t completely go away, but without the biological imperative, they are rare – and the setting has to be really right for that to be considered. So you have rightly said there was no sexual harassment.
Your generation comes from such a different space than we did. But this is how it always is. We were different than our parents on many fronts as well. And like all matured generations, we usually think the new crop is missing out on a lot. My sense is that Joe was letting off a proud of you kiss – a small gift of emotion. If you had known that, I guess you, being a decent person, would have handled this differently. So I think you missed the emotion attached to the kiss.
It was a gift that you were obviously not prepared to appreciate. That’s how people his age will generally view this. Your rant – and regardless of its civil tone – it is a media rant now – is about your generation not being very experienced at accepting personal affection from others. It’s not “your fault”. My sense is that this is an unintended result of over dependence on the sterile world of social media. Each generation has its issues.
And frankly, it’s part of the reason we got Donald Trump. Your rant would NEVER take root in Japan or even Europe. That’s because young people there are generally more respectful of what has come before. It’s why Marie Le Pen LOST in France- but Trump won here. Le Pen is far-right candidate who ran vs. Macron. The Russians hacked their elections too – but it did not work there. Macron won. Why was that? It’s important as all heck to learn from that.
We now see a disturbing increased suicide rate in young people. And psychologists point to the lack of experience in exhibiting or accepting affection in the Facebook generation.
I compare your experience ( I have 5 kids so its easy ) to the experience I had growing up. I try to break things down to simplicity, as I don’t think humans are complicated mysterious creatures. This is how I see it.
- When people put their lives online, it diminishes PRIVACY.
- Without privacy their is no mystery.
- Without mystery there is no romance.
- Without romance … there is no real life.
That’s a bit extreme I am sure. But the stats on suicide with your generation are bearing this out. Putting your lives – and now your collective brains ( Google can answer anything, why ask a person? ) had unintended consequences that Zuckerberg never thought of – or cared about. Nor does Facebook care much now.
But social media tends to make people think in blocks without individualism. We react collectively today, like schools of fish. We can be easily driven into the nets when impulsive reaction replaces independent thought. So your generation’s issue social media phenom has made your generation easier to influence by outside forces. If you guys don’t have enough inside force to fight it – you become easy prey to influence.
Listen. I don’t see a fire to run inside Joe Biden yet. And any candidate is going to need that fire. Still the effect of what you have done with this rant is giving Donald Trump a better chance of staying president, which I know you don’t want. So this is something you should fix ASAP.
My generation was far from perfect. Nor is any perfect. But during WW2, my father’s generation fought and died to preserve democracy. Do you think we would have beat Hitler of we were divided the way we are today? No way!
Divisiveness was not tolerated by the WW2 generation. it was unpatriotic then and it should be now because in many ways we are back to the same place. We are fighting dictators – here and abroad. We desperately need the unified spirit of the WW2 generation back – right now! Democracy is being given away without a bullet or struggle. What a stupid waste!
It’s not just left vs. right – it’s now women vs. men and young vs. old too.
It ALL needs to stop. WE NEED YOU. YOU NEED US. END THE DIVIDE.
And you can start that healing now. You have a rare big mic moment. Don’t drop the mic . But don’t waste its power either. Use it for something good. And this goes for Joe too.
Joe was just appreciating your spirit. Let’s celebrate that. You guys need to talk – and then come to an agreement and stage a hug ( not a kiss ) and make-up moment. it will do a lot for all of us – because the generations need each other. And you can show that you know that – and Joe can too.
I figure Joe Biden is smart enough to do that if asked. So its up to you. You can reach him on this. This has nothing to do with you liking Beto or Bernie more. I still like Bernie’s fire best. And I would not bet much Biden will even run. But the generational issue will affect our solidarity regardless of who runs against Trump. And we need solidarity.
I am fully aware that we need to be UNIFIED to win. The GOP, if nothing else, is unified.
TEAMWORK was the watch-word of the WW2 generation. The GOP is counting on us being divided. Why help them?
Look at the word TEAM – and you see it hides TE AMO. I like etymology. My book, Deciphering the English Code teaches how we can learn history and the ways our forefathers thought by analyzing today’s words.
I will be posting this email to my blog – which I want you BOTH to become familiar with.
https://englishcode.wordpress.com/?s=lucy
You want to help our country save democracy? I suggest you get together with Joe, talk it out – and hug and make up – in public. Help solve this lack of affection/appreciation issue for your generation – and you may save us all.
Also, get your life off Facebook – if you do that.
This email is sent with love. I am copying Joe Biden as best I can as well.
Sincerely,
Joseph Aronesty
e-commerce pioneer, author, linguist, songwriter, father of five, US citizen
818 423 1533
( i am not private about this – feel free to reach out )
TEAMWORK! LUCY and JOE – we need you both to align. Young and old, man and woman, left and right – we are all American citizens. We need to get back that ASAP.